I read a quote today from Henry Ford that stuck with me:

If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from his angle as well as from your own.

I try to see things from other people’s perspectives, and I’ve gotten better at it, but I’m not where I want to be. The Ford quote was a good nudge; it reminded me of the importance of mastering this skill. I’m committed to working on this until I’ve mastered it.

I read a quote today from the German missionary Albert Schweitzer that caught my attention:

An optimist is a person who sees a green light everywhere, while the pessimist sees only the red stoplight . The truly wise person is colorblind.

This got me thinking about my experience. I’ve learned to balance my thinking in any situation by considering the counter to my natural instincts. For example, if I’m super excited and see lots of upside, I try to think about the downside. Conversely, if I’m hesitant and see lots of risk, I try to think What could go right? and see the upside potential.

As an early-stage founder, I was part of an entrepreneurial group that taught new founders about key business functions. Each quarter we went deep into a specific business function: marketing, finances, HR, marketing, etc. At the end of each of those sessions, I better understood functions that didn’t come naturally to me (e.g., marketing). I felt educated. But I still had a problem: What do I do with this new knowledge? How do I use it in my business? I’d learned what I needed to do, but I still had no idea how to do it.

This experience highlighted the difference between knowledge and wisdom.

Knowledge is acquired by learning new information or being made aware of something. Learning about marketing is an example of acquiring knowledge. Knowledge acquisition doesn’t always equate to adding value. There’s another step.

Wisdom is the ability to apply knowledge in a manner that aligns with the outcome you desire. Wisdom means changed behavior and improved decision-making—knowing what to do and when to do it. Wisdom is acquired from experience (yours or someone else’s). Growing your company through marketing execution is the result of wisdom.

Through trial and error and talking with other successful entrepreneurs (who shared their experiences), I learned how to apply the concepts I learned in those sessions to grow my business. My problem was solved.

This experience showed me that knowledge is important. You can’t apply something if you aren’t aware of it, which is why continuous learning is so important. But wisdom is what I value most because applying knowledge well is how I achieve the outcomes I desire.

Friends and family joke that I have no shame about asking for what I want, especially when traveling and in other service-related situations. They’re right, and I own it.

I view knowing what you want and asking for it as a positive trait. So many people accept what’s offered to them in life. Life happens to them. They may want more, but they never take action to try to get more. I’m not wired like that. By taking the step of saying what I want and asking for it, I’m increasing the chances of getting the outcome I’m aiming for. I’m also making others aware of my goal or expectation.

I want to be clear that I’m not saying it’s okay to bully people into doing what you want or ask in a negative or nasty way. I don’t believe in that. I try to ask for what I want in a manner and tone that mirror how I would want someone to treat me.

I’ve explained to family and friend that I think about this in terms of risk and reward. In many of these situations, the upside dwarfs the downside. The upside is often a more enjoyable experience or a positive impact on you and those with you. The downside is just hearing no.

Family and friends still joke with me about this. When they do, I remind them of the famous Wayne Gretzky quote: “You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.”

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I was listening to a podcast today that mentioned a quote from Bruce Lee that I hadn’t heard before:

If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.

I like this quote. It speaks to the power of mindset in what you can achieve. If you believe there are limits to what you can accomplish, then you will unknowingly limit yourself in everything you do in life. When you’re trying to accomplish anything hard, periods when you feel your progress has stalled are inevitable. But you have a choice in how you handle them. You can view them as your having reached your limit, or you can persevere and push through them and go further.

Over the years, I’ve learned that mindset matters a lot. For example, when exercising, I’ve always been able to lift more or run farther or faster than I thought possible. I learned that limits hinder my growth. I learned to keep pushing as hard and as far as I can (without hurting myself). It’s hard and painful in the moment, but when it’s done, I’ve always been glad I kept pushing. This approach led to achieving new personal fitness goals and realizing I’m physically capable of much more than I thought.

I’ve been thinking about the kind of discussions that I and other entrepreneurs enjoy since I read this quote from former first lady Eleanor Roosevelt:

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.

Roosevelt was blunt in her characterization of discussions that don’t revolve around ideas. To be fair, people are free to discuss whatever interests them. For some that’s events and others it’s people, and that’s okay. But I get what she’s alluding to about the discussion of ideas. I’ve experienced the power of conversations about ideas many times, and I’m always blown away. Conversations that energize me and other ambitious people I’m close to always revolve around ideas and the sharing of knowledge. They can last for many hours and regularly go off in unexpected directions. I’m always fired up after I’ve had a great conversation that exposed me to unfamiliar ideas and concepts.

The process of being educated via discussions with people I respect is energy to me. It adds fuel to the fire in my belly and sparks creativity. I think these conversations align with my desire to learn and better myself. Hearing about interesting new ideas causes me to focus intensely. I immediately want to learn more and figure out how to incorporate the ideas into what I’m working on.

Roosevelt, who was born in 1884 and died in 1962, figured out something that has stood the test of time. Discussions about ideas are powerful and energizing for ambitious people who have a thirst to learn and better themselves.

This week I listened to a friend describe a proposal they’d been presented with. I recognized it as a classic “heads I win, tails you lose” scenario: the party on the other side from my friend would win regardless of the outcome. To be fair, these situations don’t always end badly: if the other party wins, you could win also. But if you lose, they still win.

I’m not a fan of this type of situation because of the misalignment of incentives. The other party is fine regardless of the outcome, so they usually have minimal incentive to push for an outcome that benefits you. This is different than a situation where your incentives are aligned and you win or lose together—in that case, the other party is much more likely to push for the outcome where you both win.

These situations are much more prevalent that people realize, but I do my best to identify and avoid being part of them.

You may have heard this proverb:

If you give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. If you teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime.

This makes sense to me. Sometimes people ask for your help with a problem, but they really want you to solve it for them. If you do, you’ve satisfied their immediate need but not set them up for future success. You’ve just taught them to call you whenever they encounter that problem.

I don’t believe in leaving people hanging when they ask for your help. Instead, I believe in supporting them. I won’t solve the problem for them, but I’ll be there to help them think and navigate through the problem. I make it a point to not lead; instead, to follow their direction. I try to support, nudge, and encourage along the way. When the problem is solved, they’ve solved it—I haven’t. The process of figuring out the solution sticks with them, and they can comfortably solve problems like it in the future on their own. And you’ve helped them become more confident. When someone succeeds in doing something they thought was impossible, they become surer of themselves and their abilities. They start to look at other problems not as insurmountable but as puzzles they can solve if they focus and put forth the effort.

I’m not sure who wrote this proverb, but it’s spot on. I prefer to teach someone how to fish.

A friend called me today to say he’d been offered a complimentary, all-access pass to this weekend’s Formula 1 race in Las Vegas. He was on the fence at first but decided to accept the offer because it’s a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. He pulled the trigger and made travel arrangements.

Once-in-a-lifetime opportunities don’t come my way often (of course), but when one does, I try to quantify the magnitude of the opportunity and then act quickly to capitalize on it if it’s truly great and rare. I’ve found that truly rare opportunities don’t last long. If you don’t take advantage of one, someone else will—with lightning speed.

I recently came across the 10-10-10 process of Suzy Welch. It’s a framework to help consistently improve decision-making by identifying regret before a decision is made. It works like this:

• Crystalize the decision you’re making.
• Understand the options available to you.
• Identify the consequences of each option in the immediate future (10 minutes).
• Identify the consequences of each option in the medium future (10 months).
• Identify the consequences of each option in the long-term future (10 years).

Thinking about the consequences forces mental time travel. You’ll understand how “future you” will feel about the consequences of each option you’re considering. If you’re likely to regret a decision (i.e., an outcome doesn’t align with your vision of your future), you can factor that into your decision-making process and pick the decision (and likely outcome) that best aligns with the future you want to create.

An easy example of applying this is working out:

• Decision: Should I work out now?
• Options: Work out or don’t work out.
• 10-minute impact of not working out: relaxed, comfortable, do something enjoyable, etc.
• 10-month impact of not working out: feel bad, look bad, lack self-confidence, etc.
• 10-year impact of not working out: increased risk of long-term health issues, etc.

Using this framework, it makes sense to push through the immediate discomfort and exercise to reduce your risk of health issues in the future and enjoy the other medium- and long-term benefits of working out. I know that’s easier said than done, but you get the idea.

I like Suzy’s approach. It’s a simple tool that most people can use to make consistent, rational decisions.

For more on her 10-10-10 method, watch this video.